Experience

We never know everything that someone else is or has been through. Even if our circumstances are similar they will not match in every detail, the feeling or depth of experience will be different because we are. We also cannot match our spiritual development or skills to anothers because we have a different skill set or bank of life experiences to draw upon. Life is not a competition. We compete because ego gets in the way. Use empathy where you can but don't assume your situation trumps anyone else's. Give messages from spirit for the love of spirit not for personal glory.